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Ek mis vir Oupa

If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden. – Claudia Ghandi

Today is exactly a month since my Oupa Hennie passed away. There is not a day that has gone by that I have not thought about him and feel my heart breaking at the loss and pain my Ouma Susie must be suffering. They were married for 52 years, what an example! I know my ma, aunt and uncles miss him dearly too. It still seems surreal and there are so many things that I would like to share with him. My Oupa who was always so interested in my well-being, my life, interests, job and everything in general. I miss him. Keep our family strong from up there. We love you.

At his funeral I read the eulogy on behalf of all the grandchildren and I have posted it below. (Thank you to all my cousins who contributed to the wording.)

Huldeblyk van kleinkinders 

Oupa, with difficulty we try and comprehend your sudden but, thankfully, peaceful passing. We miss you already. To try and capture the exceptional person you were and the love and pride you carried in your heart and soul for all of us is something we do with due consideration.

The first thing we all stand testimony to is the unsurpassed pride Oupa felt for all of us. We only had to meet someone you knew or someone from Jubilado and they would know exactly which grandchild we were; naming our achievements which you had obviously informed everyone of with that characteristic glint in your eye, beaming face and a chest swelling with delight. No matter how small the feat, you were always proud of us – your grandchildren – and you made sure we understood this. We promise that for as long as we live we will strive to continue making you, Ouma, our parents and the rest of the family proud.

We all have our own personal memories with you as you made such effort to get to know each of your grandchildren and spent quality time with all of us. Die jongste van Oupa se kleinkinders, Eldanya, wil vir jou bedank vir die Barbie en Ken speletjies. Vir elke afstap na die riviertjie om die skilpad te gaan soek. Sy onthou dat Oupa haar toegelaat het om hom in die yskoue seewater in te trek en dat jy so styf vasgeklou het sodat die branders nie vir julle kon invat nie. Sy gaan ook vir altyd die nag paaseier soekery met flitse onthou. En so het ons almal spesiale tye saam met Oupa gedeel.

Ons gaan vir Oupa mis. Sonder om te veel te sê en sonder kritiek of vlei taal het jy deur die invloed van die mens wat jy was, ons almal se lewens aan geraak. Oupa kon ‘n storie baie ver gaan haal, en inkleur soos ‘n kunstenaar. Jy kon ‘n grap met smaak vertel en uitbundig daaroor lag. Maar Oupa kon ook ernstig vermaan en mooi verduidelik waaroor dit gaan.

Ons onthou die klein gewoontetjies. Gewoontes wat baie van ons geërf het. Middag slapies en soettigheidjies na ete. Oupa het soos ‘n stoute kind altyd skelm kondensmelk in die kombuis gaan drink as jy gedink het Ouma is nie daar nie of besig met iets anders. Mens kon vir oupa maklik in ‘n wip vang met sjokolade. Pap, melk en suiker saam met braaivleis. Daar moes altyd brood en jam op die tafel wees saam met enige maaltyd. En as mens vir Oupa gevra het hoeveel suikers om in die koffie te gooi wou jy eers weet of daar ander soetgoed by gaan bedien word en hoe groot die lepel is.

Jy was altyd op hoogte van sake en het altyd die feite onthou en gedeel met ons van als wat jy interessant gevind het in ‘n koerant berig of wat Oupa op die radio of by iemand gehoor het. Mens kon oor enige iets met jou gesels. Van skaap skeer tot valuta beheer. Oupa was baie lief vir sport: gholf, krieket en rugby. Dit is hier voor die TV wat Oupa vir ons gewys het jy was ‘n professionele speeler in enige posisie, self ‘n gekwalifiseerde ref en kon vloek en skel soos ‘n matroos. Jonique is net jammer sy kon nooit Oupa oorhaal om vir die Bulle te skree nie.

Now you are gone Oupa but we are lucky. Lucky because you were spared for us, for so many years. Lucky because we were privileged to be loved by you. And lucky because we have so many wonderful memories to remember you by.

The example you set for us, the love and pride you felt for us and the prayers Oupa prayed for us are irreplaceable. Wie van ons sal ooit, ooit Oupa se tafelgebede vergeet?  We will carry you in our hearts forever.

Thank you for everything that you did and meant to each and every one of us. We will always cherish the memories that were made, the fact that you always made us smile and that you taught us all so much. Chalden has proclaimed that with pride and honour he will carry the du Toit name forward and the rest of us will too.

Rus in vrede ons dierbare Oupa!

Al ons liefde

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One thought on “Ek mis vir Oupa

  1. Missing a loved one heals but the scar remains although it will fade…….

    Posted by Elvira Nel | June 26, 2012, 7:31 PM

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